Alright so this topic is a bit overdone right now, but I wanted to weigh in for a titch on this whole Dry January thing. The holidays are a shit show, I get it, everyone needs a little detox and that’s cool too, but for some of you who might be like me, it’s not so much a 30 days and done deal, it’s a life style choice that I’ve been forced to adopt because my brain and body have decided I can’t sustain the level of party animal shit show Kelly of the past.
The dreaded hangxiety (which is actually a real medical thing!) after big night out, used to last one day, I would stay in bed and then go back to normal. This last year it has gotten so much worse. It lasts forever, stewing in my brain, and then spirals into a depressive state for days after the ‘Saturday Night’ good times.
Cue panic mode.
I’ve gone through the gamut of emotions around sobriety to the nth degree over the last 12 months and I’m not here to preach for anyone to do it one way or another. I’ve gone weeks without, then fell off the wagon. I’ve tried to moderate, but in the end I know I am way better off without it. I feel sadness to let that party boat sail off without me and maybe I will fall off again and again or maybe I won’t, as of today I’m writing with clarity that today I am not going to drink, and that is good enough for me. Will that change in a month? Maybe, but regardless this post isn’t about my choices. I just wanted to share some sobriety goodies with you if you are so inclined to need them :)
I enjoyed this article about the Sober Curious Movement which appeals to me if only I could be a more ‘occasional drinker’ but in the end moderate was never in my vocabulary. I do love the bit at the end about having a non alcoholic drink to start the night which more times then not ends the evening with you sober. I always have found the hardest part for me was the first 1-2 hours of the night, once I got past it, abstaining seemed a fuck of a lot easier.
I read Sober Stick Figure a few years ago and I LOVED it. It was written by comedian Amber Tozer, who I could relate to 100%. The book is a memoir of her life as a comic, her alcoholism and recovery. As per the name, her little stick figure drawings of her being loaded are reason enough to buy this book :)
I follow a couple of people on instagram which are great for a daily dose of inspiration, although if I happen to have had a few drinks the night before, reading about all the amazing things the sober have accomplished on a Sunday can be tough on the psyche. Maybe that statement is more telling than I think… Regardless, Millie Gooch was just a regular girl who quit the booze in 2018 but felt there were no resources for fellow young sober girls so she launched this great collective of ladies who support each other through their sobriety call the Sober Girl Society. Her insta is fun and colourful and I enjoy listening to her podcasts because she reminds me SO MUCH of myself.
The Sober Glow account is not as cheeky as the above, but her posts are lovely and I have enjoyed her 30 days of movement initiative for January. Her instagram board is very calming, I just want to sit on the beach with her in a flowy dress and have a chat.
I’m also reading The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober by Catherine Gray. Her stories and the way she tells them in her charming British way are incredible. I can relate to a lot of what she is saying, her recovery factoids are the most ‘A HA!’ moments I’ve read thus far and have helped shape my brain to think about it all differently. Even if you don’t want to stop the boozing, she is a great storyteller. I began it yesterday and am almost finished.
If podcasts are more your thing, I have not listened to a ton of these episodes but have heard great things about them :)
Love Sober (episode 58 had guest Millie Gooch on from the Sober Girl Society). Half of my love for these ladies is listening to them retell the horror stories of Holiday time loaded on Buck’s Fizz (mimosas to us Canadians :)
Seltzer Squad is also on my list to have a listen.
Recovery Rocks is a mix of sobriety and rock and roll chat.
A whole list can be found on The Temper.
So whatever your reasons, they are yours and for no one else to judge. Enjoy the sober month, year, life, or even if it’s just today, good on you!